Real Love…on The Bachelor?
Once again, the televisions and mobile screens of millions of Americans will be lit up to see if yet another Bachelor can find 'true love' while drowning in media attention and a bevy of beautiful women (with every personality needed to wring every ounce of drama possible).
This season's Bachelor is Arie Luyendyk Jr. In case that name sounds familiar, he was the runner-up on Season 8.
Now the star, he'll be dipping his toe (and a whole lot more) into this season's pool of nubile candidates who are just (cough cough) looking for love.
Hey, it's a new year!
How many of YOU have 'true love' or at least a 'happy, healthy relationship' on your list of thing you'd like to enjoy by year's end?
If so, great!
Now, here's my advice: if you think that watching The Bachelor (or it's counterpart The Bachelorette) is a good way to find clues about falling in love or finding your soul mate, your brain may still be choking on some New years Eve confetti.
It would take both hands, and probably my feet, to count how many times I have actually heard someone (mostly women, sorry ladies) say "I wish I could get a guy like that to fall in love with me!"
First off, ladies...that is NOT a real man.
He's probably got less than 2% body fat, a sculpted six-pack and probably will never wear a pizza-stained t-shirt or fart in front of the ladies on the show.*
There are BETTER ways to find true love, my friends.
Here are a couple of things to consider putting into action (as explained in the video above):
Step 1. Figure out EXACTLY what type of relationship you wish to enjoy. Go into deep, rich detail. Describe it it full color and feeling.
Step 2. Take a good hard look at yourself. be brutally honest as you determine if YOU are thinking, speaking and acting like a person who is in that dream relationship.
Step 3. Take consistent action to get closer to being the person you know you will need to be, to attract the right person to make that relationship happen.
Face it, shows like The Bachelor are full of catty drama on purpose, packed to the gills with beautiful, sexy, fake people, all playing their role designed to create "I can't believe s/he did THAT!" gasps and water-cooler talk week after week.
If that's what you're after, go for it...the playbook is right there.
But if you're looking for 'real' love, and a relationship you'd like to spend the rest of your life building and enjoying, then perhaps The Bachelor is not the best blueprint.
I found the TRUE LOVE of MY dreams by following the three steps I shared here.
Maybe you can do, if you're willing to put in the effort.
Go ahead. I bet you're worth it.
* A New Zealand female contestant once farted during a 'date' on a beach.
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